Apparently, discussions about the things to look for in a woman
as old as marriage itself but with changing times – equal opportunities, feminism
and all – the traditional qualities of good women have largely changed. So how do
you spot a good woman in the 21st century? Here are the 15 basic
things to look for, as advised by Yangki Christine Akiteng – A love Doctor.
She
does not try to change you (accepts you the way you are).
She
enjoys being around you always, not only when you are doing things to please
her
She
does all she can to make you happy, often sacrificing her own time and effort
She is
contented with herself, does not always look for attention to boost her self-esteem.
She
will always be there for you, whether things are good or bad.
She
says something and sticks to it. There are no mind games with real good women.
She
knows that for a relationship to work, partners must contribute 50 /50 and she
does exactly that.
She
respects you always, whether in public or private.
She is
nice to everyone, whether she has something to gain from them or not.
She
has a genuine desire to get into a relationship with you.
You
both have a liking for similar things.
She is not embarrassed nor does she show too much pride in the fact that she loves you.
She
takes life positively and is happy with it.
She
makes you feel important, your faults and shortcomings notwithstanding.
Her smile welcomes you and you can see its deep
from her heart.
Word News -- A young pregnant woman who has been clinically
dead for three weeks now will be taken off life support after a three-judge
bench found that there was no chance of giving birth to a live baby.
The brain dead woman has been deteriorating fast and, according
to the court, “the prospect for the unborn is nothing but distress and death.”
Conor Dignam SC and Cormac Corrigan SC, representing the interest of the unborn
and the woman, respectively, told the court they will not appeal the ruling.
The woman in question is 18 weeks pregnant and was 15 weeks
into gestation when doctors declared her clinically dead on 3rd of December
in Dublin Hospital. Her condition was occasioned
by a brain injury she suffered at another hospital just outside Dublin on
November 29th. She had been
admitted at the hospital after checking in for severe headaches.
Doctors at the Dublin hospital were concerned about the
legal implications of her pregnancy, arising from the legal provision to maintain
the right to life of the unborn and, therefore, had placed her on somatic life
support treatment.
Her father, her partner and the extended family made an application
to the court seeking orders to stop the somatic life support in order for them
to accord her a dignified burial. Her father cited how distressed her eldest
daughter had been when she visited her mother.
During the case, seven doctors provided evidence to the
court and none of them expressed the need to continue treatment or if there was
any chance of the baby being born alive if the treatment continued. The court
was informed of how her condition was fast deteriorating--She had an open wound
on the head, with infections and a rotting brain.
The court based its decision on prevailing medical evidence
that shows poorer prognosis of the unborn child if the mother suffers brain death
in early gestation. Thus the court was satisfied that it was in the best
interest of the unborn child to authorize the withdrawal of life support in
this “tragic and unfortunate” case.
Kenya News -- A Nairobi lady was stripped naked by touts for covering herself with little cloth (there is a video to that effect, it’s online, and a link should be somewhere on this page). She wasn't even dressed that skimpy -- she was wearing a miniskirt, exposing just a bit of her thighs. Other parts of her body were decently covered.
Pointer to a bigger social problem?
The people who stripped her are the usual self-destructed, substance-abusing hopeless idlers. An ignorant lot who can't find an easier job than the unruly touting that has given the Matatu business its bad name. These people make up the majority of people in Bus Stations and other places and tend to act with a lot of impunity. They punished her with their frustrations I guess!
Her ordeal was video-recorded by a bystander and the video sadly shows how the lady cried for mercy to no avail.
Time to make noise?
It's not hard to sympathize with the lady and, as expected, the incident has attracted widespread condemnation from members of the public, the clergy, the political class, the media, and the self-appointed "human rights" activists, who, to be honest, are forever preoccupied with activities to push for their own economic rights. It’s God-sent that most categories of people in the above list made noise – what an opportunity to be seen to be working.
On a rather serious note, the unfortunate event brought to the fore the harsh realities of a society that is experiencing unprecedented levels of moral decay: discussions revolving around the recent unmasking of the daring “seed” miracle conspiracy haven’t died out, neither have those relating to the self-confessed Naivasha human “vampire”, and many others.
Action time
The long arm of the law has inevitably swung into action. The criminals whose faces appeared in the video are now subject to a first class police manhunt. We have no doubt that they will be “brought to book” (an obviously overused phrase). The police on this side of the universe, for understandable reasons, partly use their time and efforts conducting small but illicit economic activities. They expect citizens to behave themselves like grown people who don't need to be watched all the time. The police really hate being reminded of their policing responsibilities. In fact, any incident that draws nationwide condemnation and which seems to suggest that the police are sleeping on the job is always received with a stern knee-jerk reaction from the force. Culprits must pay dearly, they always do. They can't hide, they can't run --Kenya is too small for an angered police force. How many agree?
Is it wrong to dress like that?
First, indecency in dressing is not generally encouraged in Kenya but there is increasing tolerance. For example, when you are going about your business in the CBD and a rainstorm is approaching (picture this), you’ll likely be treated to a spectacular scene of a high-heeled lady bolting across the street with half of her blessings sticking out in the wind. Confronted with such scenes, most of us just pretend to be minding our own businesses or do we? I think that’s the most civilized way to go about it. The most a skimpy-dressed woman can get from the "civilized" city dwellers are whispers, giggles, and well-intended praises from saliva-swallowing young men with broad smiles.
In fact, young ladies are very happy with the attention they get and are tempted to show even more on their next CBD visit. They get motivated to continue copying “fashionable trends” from their more insane counterparts in the US and elsewhere. After all it’s sensible to reduce the amount of flesh covered when you think of some valid 21st century reasons. With climate change and everything, temperatures are just unbearable these days. And who expects a trendy 21st century young woman to walk around covered like a sheep that is being bred for wool?
Maybe its no big deal but be cautious
And you know what? No one is really supposed to care about the "annoying" habit. Parents and siblings don't like their own exposing too much. This is liberal world. Even when so many people think how you dress is their business, you will always find a place for whatever level of nakedness you want to don. Do it there please if you have to because you don't know what may happen to you. For example, no one will or is supposed to ask you any questions if they caught you busting a Miley Cyrus move in your full birth suit but in the comfort of your private room. In such a scenerio you are the one to demand answers.
Ladies should be careful with where they walk with their very partially covered bodies. Some busy parts of Nairobi like Muthurwa and Machakos Bus Terminus are clearly hostile. Places that are highly concentrated with non-job fit, shilling-seeking, frustrated young men should not be in the path of anyone who is overly attracting attention and curiosity. Any sane person walking in these areas have their sixth sense high on alert. With their mob-mentality, the idle, substance-abusing youth will pathologically tend to feel “irritated” and there is a high chance they won’t take such provocations lying down. Of course, in reality, a huge proportion of their anger and frustration is due to the apparent self-projected inability to have a "decent" woman (read the victim) in their lives. Is it true that no woman dares to seek happiness in the unkempt, substance-abusing early childhood-school dropouts? When they strip a woman, to me it appears like they just want to see more, but have a zero chance of achieving that through proper and civilized means and so they force it. It’s not like they don’t like what they seeing. Hell no! They like it very much.
Any Lessons from the incident?
From a concerned citizen’s perspective, the increased culture of lawlessness by thousands of idle youth in the city and elsewhere in the country is reason for law-makers and implementers to worry. These are the same people who seize any opportunity to cause mayhem, loot, and indulge in lots of other dark acts, causing untold suffering to people who actually work hard to make something for themselves and give this country a good name. The unruly bad youth really give us a bad name.
Here is the video
Note: I here another grown woman was stripped today (11/17/2014)
